There is this article in the paper today about a man who got out of his jail sentence by marrying the victim...! Basically- the perpetrator and the victim were lovers 10 yrs ago...after the female got pregnant and the guy refused to marry her, she filed a rape case against him. To avoid being arrested the guy finally agreed to marry her (10 years later!) and now the female is withdrawing her case against him.

This is not a new case...it's something we've read often in the papers or scene in movies... Now, my concerns here are- a) If the couple were lovers, how can the female charge him with raping her? My understanding is that rape is supposed to be with the use of force or coercion, which is obviously not the case here? b) Both the parties were adults when the crime was committed- so how come it's only the guy who's at fault here? It's not like the female in question did not know what she was doing? She should also have been careful about the consequences of such a matter. c) Now that the guy has finally married her- she actually says that "they are happily married" and she wants to withdraw her case. It seems more like she got her way and forced the man to marry her finally, by hook or crook.

Prima Facie there seems to be no case against the man for having raped or even attempted rape. In fact I feel that the female should be booked for misguiding the court. In fact she should also be sued for bringing a bad name to all womankind. Because of dumb females like these, genuine victims have a hard time with their cases. Women are being accused of using the law arbitrarily for their benefit. Just because she is a woman- doesn't mean that she is necessarily the victim!

p.s. I am not saying that the man was not at fault. He should obviously be made to stand up for actions- but definitely not like this.

This post is coming a little belated but I just have to mention it....Friendship day this year was very nice....Adi and Naush went all out and were in their school girl mode... :))
I have never really been the kind of person who shows her emotions very easily or makes people feel that they are special to me... but the effort that Naush put into the day was really cute... she'd made this scrapbook with some really really really old memories... there were pictures of us as 5 year-olds as well as some at our kinkiest best on Rashi's bachelorette party :D
Pictures of school trips, fun days at school and especially of this play that we had once done... (the mahabharat scene from "Jaane bhi do yaaron"...) where I was Dhritrashtra! :D
Here's to all my friends...! Cheers! :)

Drink to me only with thine eyes...

Drink to me only with thine eyes

And I will but pledge with mine.

Or leave a kiss but in the cup

And I'll not ask for wine.

The thirst that from the soul doth rise

Doth ask a drink divine.

But might I of Jove's necter sup

I wouldst not exchange for thine.

Love this verse by Ben Jonson. The words are simple and the thoughts so profound...

Anger is a very very bad thing... Someone once said, “For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness." I beg to disagree...for every minute that you get angry you lose at least 2 hours of happiness. And that loss of happiness makes you even more angry and then that further adds to loss of happiness. So basically it's all inter-linked... somehow I seem to have very little or almost no control over my anger, stubborness or irritation. And what happens is that I let it go the first time and the second time.. but the third time I just BLAST. Maybe it would be better if I didn't let it go the first time and let my displeasure be known... then I wouldn't get really pissed off like this...

It's funny how we often mis-judge your parents....we live under the impression that parents belong to a different generation who will not understand us, our feelings, our ambitions, our turmoils.... we feel they just don't get it. But somehow they always surprise us.. they'll do something or say something which would be so simple and yet so profound that you'd go... "whoa...! where'd that come from!".

I remember this friend of mine from school who was in love with a guy from her engineering days... but she wasn't sure if her parents would agree to her marrying a guy from a different caste... Due to an unfortunate turn of events, this guy lost his parents... and her dad somehow agreed to the union... he said, "the poor guy has already lost 2 of the closest people in his life. If he lost you too, he'd be shattered." That's why he said yes! My friend was like... "I was soo surprised... I never thought dad could be like this!" Well now she's happy and settled in UK.. and i miss her... :)

So basically my point was, "Just learn to trust your parents. They've seen more of the world than you and me... and they care about you and don't want to see you hurt... Just take care you don't hurt them either." :)

p.s. There was an instance in campus, when I needed some serious advice, but was apprehensive about calling dad, coz I'd gotten myself in a mess.... but once I called him, things just seemed so much simpler... and he told me that i had to do what i had to do... and that was that! He was sooo supportive that I couldn't help being bowled over..! :)